When Everything Goes Wrong, Find Your Happy Place
Have you ever had one of those days where everything and I mean everything just seems to go wrong? The phone rings and you are almost afraid to answer it because you just don’t want any more bad news?
Of course, we all have those days, and even though you know that it is time to take charge, pull yourself up by the bootstraps and move forward, this is the last thing you can do because it just seems like too much effort!
When this happens it is really easy to let all of the thoughts that go into your head be negative. Your thoughts can (and will) totally consume your mind, your actions and your energy. So what techniques can you use to make sure that you step over the line in the sand and into a positive, engaging and relaxed mindset?
My column for Fredericksburg.Today is the real me, the real deal. I have struggled unforeseen events that I couldn’t control, situations that seemed insurmountable to overcome and just an overall amazing amount of stress. When this happens, it is important to stay focused on what you can change – and, more importantly, what you cannot change. Here are my steps to a positive attitude:
Step #1 – Have a good cry! I deserve it, and you do too. It is actually very healthy to release those emotions and get it out of your system. While I am having my pity party, I’ll close my eyes and start breathing deep – very slowly, in and out…in and out. This slows down my heart rate and helps to clear my head.
Step #2 – I pull out my Young Living Essential Oils. I use this brand of Essential Oils because of their genuine properties. They are all natural and therapeutic grade oils that go directly into your blood stream and take effect immediately. This allows me to balance emotions and think clearly. My favorite Essential Oils are Lavender, Stress-Away, Believe and Peace and Calming. Together they help me feel safe and focused.
Step #3 – I only share information to a very small group of people. I take control of whom I allow into my space. No negativity allowed! I am not taking steps backwards. I will say that the same person who is also my supporter, my friend and my shoulder to cry on, is also the person that will be able to snap me back into reality and tell me the hard news that I may not really want to hear. It is important for everyone to have a person like this in their life because sometimes you just need someone to hit you across the back of the head with a 2×4! (Covered in purple velvet, of course!)
Step #4 – Assess the real situation and come to this realization…what part of this really involves me? What part of the situation can I control? And lastly, I come to the peace and understanding that I am not in control of everything. Everything happens for a reason, we just don’t always know what the reason is at the moment.
What I know for sure is that with a positive attitude, you can change your life! As the owner of Organization Direct, I help empower people to be organized and take charge of their environment – physically and mentally.
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